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I was just reading some five year old letters and responses on your site. One question. If, as you contend, alcoholism is NOT a disease, or as the Big Book suggests, an "allergy", then why is it that you admittedly can never, ever take a drink? I come from a championship bloodline of alcoholics. AA (or more accurately, a belief in God) saved my life when nothing else could. AA is not perfect, but I know of no organization that is. (I had several medical doctors, in their wisdom, tell me to "cut back" in my drinking. Even you acknowledge that merely cutting back is not the solution.) Eric O. Hello Eric, An inherited condition is not necessarily a disease. And the inability to drink something without getting sick is not a disease. I also cannot drink cyanide koolaid without getting sick, but that doesn't mean that I suffer from a "spiritual disease" called cyanidism. Approximately 50% of Asian people have an inherited condition called "Alcohol Flush Reaction", which causes them to flush red and also suffer from nausea, headaches, light-headedness, an increased pulse, occasional extreme drowsiness, and occasional skin swelling and itchiness. (See: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alcohol_flush_reaction.) Their bodies do not metabilize alcohol the way that ours do, so alcohol makes them sick, often very sick. Thus, those people really shouldn't drink alcohol. But "Alcohol Flush Reaction" is not considered a disease. It's just a genetic condition โ one mutated gene, and you don't metabolize alcohol the same as how other people do. The answer is very simple: Just don't drink any alcohol, and you won't get sick. Likewise, when I drink alcohol, I get such a good buzz on and like it so much that I want more and more, and want to totally make it my lifestyle in spite of the terrible cost and negative consequences. You could argue that alcohol warps my thinking and makes me a little irrational (okay, maybe a lot irrational); you might even be able to argue that alcohol make me a bit mentally ill, but drinking alcohol still isn't a disease. It's behavior. And the "cure" is just: "Don't drink alcohol." And alcohol is simply a poison. It poisons me just like it poisons the Asian men. The difference is just what part of my body it affects the most. And I also occasionally suffered from "nausea, headaches, light-headedness, and occasional extreme drowsiness", just like the flush reaction causes. So what? That is just a reaction to alcohol, not a disease. In addition, A.A. routinely says that "alcoholism" is a disease, but they have never clearly defined just what the disease is. (The ridiculous Joint Committee hack job for the A.M.A. is not any answer. Look here and here.) As I have said before in previous letters: A.A. uses three different definitions for the word "alcoholic", and gets them all mixed up, which really confuses the issue. The definitions are: And even if you consider the second item, the "allergy", to be a disease, can you explain how practicing the Twelve Steps and confessing all of your sins to your sponsor is supposed to "cure" or "treat" alcoholism? What other allergy is there that is cured by confession of sins? That is crazy cult religion, not the practice of medicine. By the way, allergies are not usually considered diseases. If you are allergic to bee stings, or penicillin, or peanuts, you don't have a disease that requires constant medical treatment. You just have to avoid those things. Avoid them like your life depends on it, because it does. But you don't have to go to a never-ending series of meetings and talk about how "Higher Power" is taking care of you to avoid bee stings or penicillin or peanuts. And why is it so terribly important to you and other A.A. members to call alcoholism a disease? Do you want to claim that nothing was your fault because you have an inherited disease? (But if that is true, then why confess your sins in steps 4, 5, and 7? Why confess your "moral shortcomings" and "wrongs" if you have a medical disease?) I find it better to realize that drinking alcohol too much was a choice that I made, a bad choice that was prompted by the way that I felt, which was largely due to child abuse, and now I can make other, wiser, more sane, more mature choices. Live and learn. The fact that you found inspiration in religion is all fine and well. But I am still not convinced that there is any cause and effect relationship there. Usually, people drink themselves nearly to death and then come to the realization that they had better quit that behavior, or else. Then they go to "treatment" where some A.A. recruiter sends them to lots of A.A. meetings. Or they wander into an A.A. meeting on their own, to see if it might help. Then the true believers in A.A. immediately set about convincing the newcomers that only A.A. will keep them sober. And some of the newcomers start talking about "God" or "my Higher Power". But the sad truth of the matter is that the majority of people who go to A.A. come out worse off, not better. When A.A. was put to the test, Alcoholics Anonymous was actually shown to cause:
All of those facts were revealed by carefully controlled medical tests. Alcoholics Anonymous teaches some really harmful ideas, like that you are powerless over alcohol because alcoholism is a disease. That is a ready-made excuse for relapsing. It's also a great excuse for the morning after. Oh, and even Bill Wilson said that alcoholism isn't a disease. See the signature. Have a good day. == Orange
* orange@orange-papers.info * * AA and Recovery Cult Debunking * * http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ * ** "We AA's have never called alcoholism a disease because, technically ** speaking it is not a disease entity." ** == Bill Wilson, ** speaking to the National Catholic Clergy Conference On Alcoholism, ** April 21, 1960, in New York. ![]()
Hi Jeanie, I don't have any separate study of NA. However, this web site is in many ways just as much about NA as AA, even though I don't often use the name NA. I went to just as many NA meetings as AA, and it was just the same. The only thing you got less of was worship of Bill Wilson and Dr. Bob. Otherwise, it's the same. Have a good day. == Orange
* orange@orange-papers.info * * AA and Recovery Cult Debunking * * http://www.orange-papers.info/ * ** "Now I know what it's like to be high on life. ** It isn't as good, but my driving has improved." ** == Nina, on "Just Shoot Me", 13 Jan 2006.
From: "Jeanie H." Dear "Orange" I just want to thank you for having the steel and wisdom to put your website out there. I feel like Richard Dreyfuss in "Close Encounters." My husband has been attending NA religiously for 1 1/2 years. I've been telling him, our friends and family "listen this NA stuff is cult like, it's not normal, etc. etc." I went to my church and shared my concerns about them drilling into his head that he was an addict and would never recover. I e-mailed his sponsor and questioned the sanity of making him write out all of his negative "stuff" and spending weeks on it and the resulting depression he experienced. I kept questioning the 1st tradition of NA is first above all else and why there was no mention of just having a life, taking care of your family, etc. etc. The end result was my husband was berated and yelled at by his sponsor in a meeting room and basically told him to tell me to keep my mouth shut that I didn't know anything about this program and I was an outsider. Several members ostrasized him and still will not speak to him. You can imagine the wrath I received from my husband for that. He sounds like a parrott, he's not only stopped drinking, he's stopped living. He attends 5-6 meetings still a week. I was very concerned because his sponsor (an old-timer) was in the middle of an affair with another NA woman (while married) and has since moved on to another woman (NA). My husband had an affair with another NA married woman and now we are all in the process of divorce. I am not naieve enough to say that he did [not] have a serious drinking problem. However, I am very much of the belief that yes he did and drinking is a choice, abeit even a "disease", but one that you can recover from, one that does not require a cult like involvement. Everything he ever enjoyed that did not involve drinking in his "prior life" he has given up. I'm going to pick up the fight, orange. I am not afraid to go up against this and I feel like it's what I am suppose to do. You'll see my name sometime in a letter to a public official, I plan on giving the facts to all of the churches that harbor and enable this organization to stay alive and well and that is just the start. When you do, you'll know that it was because you took the step to speak out. What would be the best book I could read that tells the real facts about Bill and the founding of the 12 steps? What data based report/book could I get my hands on that supports your Cult test theory? I know I sound dramatic, do not mistake drama for just genuine relief that I am not crazy and the things I've been thinking and saying for all of these months are founded in truth. I've been doing hard duty in the watchtower for over a year, I've witnessed first hand exactly what you've documented and it is my time to speak out. That's all I can do and that's all that I believe is expected of me. Sorry for the lengthy e-mail. Bless you, Orange. I hope you're enjoying your life. Hi again, Jeanie, Thank you for the story and the compliments. I'm sorry to hear about your troubles. And welcome to the battle for the truth. I really wish the general public understood just how many people get messed up by so-called "12-Step Recovery". As you have seen, it isn't all it is cracked up to be. There isn't any one book or source for the cult test. I used a huge number of books for the information, as well as my own experiences with cults. Start with the "Cults and More Cults" section of the bibliography, here. For a quicker overview, and a much shorter list to start with, see the "Cults" section of the "Top 10" list (which really lists more like 40 books), here. There, you will find my favorite dozen books about cults. Have a good day. == Orange
* orange@orange-papers.info * * AA and Recovery Cult Debunking * * http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ * ** "Although easily mistaken for candy, holly is quite poisonous." ** "Although easily mistaken for real moral religions, cults are quite poisonous." ![]()
Date: Mon, December 24, 2007 11:22 am (answered Feb-June 2008) I have posted some research and counter-arguments to you at http://www.geocities.com/agent.green/
Regards,
Have a good day. == Orange
* orange@orange-papers.info * * AA and Recovery Cult Debunking * * http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ * ** If we persist in writing blank checks to ** treatment centers without demanding results, ** then we will continue to get failure ** disguised as success. [The next letter from Green is here.] ![]()
Hi AO, I keep meaning to send you this article (see attachment) on addiction that turned up on my AOL main page one morning, written for Psychology Today. I think the article came out a few months ago, maybe April. I wasn?t sure if you?d seen it so wanted to pass it on. Maybe the psychiatric community is coming around? One can only hope. Hope you are well and out there enjoying life and the Canada geesies! My condo is off an artificial pond and I had an entire family here! Momma, Poppa and SIX babies! I love Canada Geese too. Hey, I noticed there is an Agent Green out there, now, to ?rebutt? you. How pathetic. -Madame Senga Hi again, Madame Senga. It's good to hear from you again. That's a good article. Written by Stanton Peele, too.
Rather than reprinting the whole article here, I'll just give a link to it, since
Psychology Today magazine has their own web site going and publishes the article there: It confirms what a lot of us already knew, but it's still good to hear it again from one of the leaders in the recovery field. And yes, I got a message from Agent Green, too, challenging my statements. Coincidentally, I was just answering it when your letter came. Look here. And have a good day. == Orange
* orange@orange-papers.info * * AA and Recovery Cult Debunking * * http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ * ** After silence, that which comes closest to expressing the ** inexpressible is music. == Aldous Huxley
I was very surprised. I had been photographing them and feeding them the previous two days, and they had both parents then, and everything looked fine. Then, suddenly, on day 3, no parents. Just some babies crying. By the way, that means these little guys were 3 or 4 days old when this photo was taken. That is far too young to survive alone. Without a mama sitting on them and warming them, they will die of hypothermia at night when it gets really cold at 4 or 5 in the morning โ especially if they stay out on the flotsam where it is cold and wet. But if they come ashore and try to huddle together in a dry nest, the predators will eat them. There are very nasty river rats and feral cats that patrol the waterfront, eating all of the ducklings and goslings that they can get. Even worse, the goslings would be crying in the middle of the night because they would be cold and lonely and lost and afraid, and that would attract the cats, who would come and finish them off. The poor goslings were really stuck between a rock and a hard place โ damned if you do, and damned if you don't. Either freeze and starve on the water or get eaten on the land. Here, they are huddling together in a vain attempt to get warm.
Well, I won't keep you in suspense. I waited for hours, to see if the parents would show up and rescue them. Come sundown, still no parents. I know that sometimes geese parents will stash their babies in a safe place for an hour, and go off and do something, and then come back, but that obviously wasn't what was happening here. I still don't know what happened to the parents. This is the only time in 8 years of feeding the geese that I've ever seen an orphaned brood. (Maybe because orphans die or get eaten very soon.) I was saying to myself, "These little guys aren't going to make it through the night. There isn't much chance of coming back here tomorrow and finding them still alive." I didn't have the heart to just walk away and leave them to their fate, so I waited and watched some more. When the opportunity presented itself โ when they got off of the flotsam and swam near me โ I put my hand in the water and said, "Come on... Come on..." and they sort of swam into my hand. The first little guy squawked in fear when I scooped him up, just once. I soothed him and said, "I'm not going to hurt you. Here, tuck in right here. That's a good gosling," and cuddled him against my chest with my left arm. He didn't try to escape. He tucked himself in as much as he could get in between my arm and my chest, which is just like a gosling getting under his mother's wing. The others watched what happened to the first one, and lost some of their fear. They were still a little afraid of me, but they were even more afraid of dying of the cold. One by one, they swam up to me within easy reach, and allowed me to pick them up and tuck them into my arms. None tried to escape. They just tried to get more tucked in. They basically knew in five seconds flat that I was a friend. At that time, I did not know that putting a wing over a baby gosling is the official goose act of adoption. When I was cuddling them against my chest with my arms, that was an adoption in goose body language. When a gosling is orphaned, it goes around to all of the females and begs, "Will you be my mommy?" Usually, almost always, the female rejects the baby and snaps at it, or even bites it, and drives it away. Hence most orphaned goslings die soon. But if the female accepts the orphan, she puts a wing over it and cuddles it against her side. I did that because I just wanted to warm up the goslings and comfort them, and I also didn't have any other handy way to hold them right then. They understood it to mean something more. I took them home, and fed them and warmed them and cuddled them, and yes, adopted them. I didn't originally intend to adopt them, but they got to me. And they accepted me as their foster mother very quickly โ like within 18 hours, they wouldn't leave me. It's a long story. I'll tell it by and by. I have a zillion more photographs. The camera got a good workout on this one. Have a good day. [The story of the goslings continues here.] ![]()
Dear Orange, I want to thank you for helping me make the right decision at a critical time in my life! I was in the Twelve-Step program for a few years, but I got sober only AFTER I left AA completely. I've now been clean and sober for almost two years. My experience corroborates many things you claim. For example, my drinking definitely became much more intense and dangerous when I relapsed after having started to attend Twelve-Step meetings. I think this was at least in part because of the phenomenon you call "learned helplessness", and also because of the shame and guilt I felt for not having "recovered". After the first drink I just said "fuck it, now I've got nothing to lose!" In AA, I was never able to remain sober for more than a few months at a time. My sponsor told me I wasn't "open minded" enough to work the Steps properly. The real reason was that I had been taught that just staying "physically sober" would have no effect in terms of recovery. This belief undermined my resolve and thus weakened the only "power" that could actually help me. Leaving AA certainly wasn't easy. Most of the people I had known in the program displayed a subtly condescending attitude. When I expressed my feelings of resentment towards AA to a "friend" (who had introduced me to the program), he told me that "criticizing AA is a loser behavior". Even though I had been miserable in AA, I still had great difficulty trusting my own instincts and judgment. When I left the program I was full of rage, particularly against the abusive narcissist who was my sponsor, but I still had the feeling that it was my fault and that perhaps my "disease" was guiding my actions. Luckily I found your website (and Ken Ragge's). Your writings eloquently expressed thoughts and feelings that I had, in a vague sense, carried with me the whole time in AA. I was just afraid to acknowledge them. After reading your pages I realized my instincts were dead on. I had participated in a crypto-religious cult whose beliefs and values only superficially had anything to do with recovery. Anti-intellectualism, superstition and pseudo-scientific rhetoric were the order of the day. You really helped me solidify my decision to trust my own judgment!
Best regards, Dear Victor, Okay, thank you. You just really brightened my morning. Now I feel cheerful enough to go make some coffee and start the day. And congratulations on your escape and your sobriety. Life really is so much more fun when you aren't sick and hung over, isn't it? Have a good day and a good life. == Orange
* orange@orange-papers.info * * AA and Recovery Cult Debunking * * http://www.orange-papers.info/ * ** "Now I know what it's like to be high on life. ** It isn't as good, but my driving has improved." ** == Nina, on "Just Shoot Me", 13 Jan 2006.
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Why should we care what some unnamed invisible fools allegedly believe, anyway? I am referring to you Hello, Metalsaw, Now do you have anything to offer to the world besides a resentment? Oh well, have a good day anyway. == Orange
* orange@orange-papers.info * * AA and Recovery Cult Debunking * * http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ * ** "r u looking to BUY Bacheelor/MasteerMBA/Doctoraate dip1omas? ** read more her meg hlfe doshu" ** == A real spam email that advertised a diploma mill. ![]()
"Can someone give me a date and a place?" April 21, 1960 New York Thank you for this site. Hi eMac, I'm not sure of the location, but it is listed in the transcripts of the NCCA, here: http://www.silkworth.net/religion_clergy/01052.html The date appears to be 1960. The quote is about two-thirds of the way down the page. Have a good day. == Orange
* orange@orange-papers.info * * AA and Recovery Cult Debunking * * http://www.Orange-Papers.org/ * ** "Now I know what it's like to be high on life. ** It isn't as good, but my driving has improved." ** == Nina, on "Just Shoot Me", 13 Jan 2006.
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Oh well, at least I got to find a source for the quote. Thanks and have a good day. == Orange
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