Powerless Over Alcohol
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by A. Orange
People are not "powerless" over their desires to drink alcohol, smoke cigarettes, or take drugs. Being sick, and having a messed-up life from too much drinking, is just that β being sick. It isn't "powerlessness." Having difficulties quitting is not "powerlessness", it's having difficulties quitting. Saying that your drinking has really gotten out of control doesn't mean that you are powerless over it. Quitting can be hard, extremely difficult and painful, but that doesn't mean that it's impossible, or that you can't do it. Remember: When the going gets tough, the tough get going. The "powerless" doctrine of Alcoholics Anonymous is one of their most central religious beliefs. It is one of those points where A.A. radically departs from Christianity or any other mainstream religion of the world, and enters the bizarre realm of cult religion. A.A. teaches that people are incapable of running their own lives and must surrender control of their lives to the A.A. group and a "Higher Power" who will control them, and do the quitting for them. Thus the real purpose of Step One is to prepare the new members for Steps Two and Three, where they will confess that they are insane, and then surrender their wills and their lives to "the care of God" and the Alcoholics Anonymous group. One of the biggest problems with the Twelve-Step program is the learned helplessness caused by the First Step, where people are taught to confess that they are "powerless over alcohol." This leads many people to believe that once they have a drink, that a full-blown relapse and total loss of self-control is inevitable and unavoidable.4 The other half of Step One, which says that "our lives had become unmanageable", leads some people to believe that they shouldn't even try to manage their lives. Step Two is just as bad: it teaches people that they are insane, and that only a Supernatural Being can restore them to sanity β which means that they are helpless, and cannot heal themselves. Then Step Three teaches a lifestyle of passive dependency, where A.A. members turn control of their wills and their lives over to "the care of God as we understood Him", and they expect God to run their lives and solve all their problems for them from then on... The doctrine that alcoholics are "powerless over alcohol" came from the Oxford Group, Dr. Frank Nathan Daniel Buchman's cult religion. Dr. Buchman declared that people were "defeated by sin", and powerless over it, and unable to refrain from sinning, and only by surrendering to his cult religion could people escape from a life of sin. William Griffith Wilson, Dr. Robert Holbrook Smith, and Clarence Snyder were all members of this cult. They adapted Buchman's cult religion to a "program for alcoholism", and simply copied the entire cult religion and renamed it to "Alcoholics Anonymous". Bill Wilson just changed the word "sin" to "alcohol", and declared that alcoholics were "powerless over alcohol", and only by surrender to his cult religion could alcoholics escape from a lifetime of excessive drinking. ![]() Bill Wilson routinely tried to cite the "powerless" idea and the disease theory of alcoholism to explain away his previous poor behavior. The official A.A. history book, "PASS IT ON", tells how Bill Wilson happily discovered that the disease theory of alcoholism relieved him of his feelings of guilt β it wasn't really his fault after all, because he was powerless over alcoholism:
Bill listened, entranced, as Silkworth explained his theory. For the first time in his life, Bill was hearing about alcoholism not as a lack of willpower, not as a moral defect, but as a legitimate illness. It was Dr. Silkworth's theory β unique at the time β that alcoholism was the combination of this mysterious pysical "allergy" and the compulsion to drink; that alcoholism could no more be "defeated" by willpower than could tuberculosis. Bill's relief was immense.
So, in the Big Book, Bill Wilson wrote,
It relieved me somewhat to learn that in alcoholics the will is amazingly weakened when it comes to combating liquor, though it often remains strong in other respects. My incredible behavior in the face of a desperate desire to stop was explained. Understanding myself now, I fared forth in high hope. For three or four months the goose hung high. I went to town regularly and even made a little money. Surely this was the answer β self-knowledge.
Why does he behave like this? If hundreds of experiences have shown him that one drink means another debacle with all its attendant suffering and humiliation, why is it he takes that one drink? Why can't he stay on the water wagon? What has become of the common sense and will power that he still sometimes displays with respect to other matters? Notice how Bill Wilson tried to equate unclear thinking and goofy behavior with proof of "powerlessness". That is the propaganda trick of False Equality β just imply that two very different things are the same thing. The fact that someone is behaving in an unwise manner β even in a suicidally stupid manner β does not prove that he is "powerless over alcohol". Nor does it prove that he is "powerless" over his desire to drink alcohol and get high. Nor does it prove that he has a "disease". It just means that he is being stupid and making poor choices, like choosing short-term pleasure over long-term health. By the way, what Bill Wilson called "self-knowledge" was not self-knowledge. Bill Wilson was just using more buzz-words and high-falitin' language. Bill Wilson never knew himself. He never analyzed his clinical depression or Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Delusions of Grandeur. His jabber about "self-knowledge" is just more meaningless slogan-slinging. Other stories in the Big Book declare:
It helped me a lot to become convinced that alcoholism was a disease, not a moral issue; that I had been drinking as a result of a compulsion, even though I had not been aware of the compulsion at the time; and that sobriety was not a matter of will power.
On the contrary, sobriety is most assuredly a matter of will power and self-control.
I now remembered what my alcoholic friends had told me, how they had prophesied that if I had an alcoholic mind, the time and place would come β I would drink again. They had said that though I did raise a defense, it would one day give way before some trivial reason for having a drink. Well, just that did happen and more, for what I had learned of alcoholism did not occur to me at all. I knew from that moment that I had an alcoholic mind. I saw that will power and self-knowledge would not help in those strange mental blank spots. I had never been able to understand people who said that a problem had them hopelessly defeated. I knew then. It was a crushing blow. Those "friends" (actually, Bill Wilson and Dr. Bob Smith) "prophesied" that alcoholics would suffer from "strange mental blank spots", where the alcoholism would seize control of their minds and "will power and self-knowledge would not help," and they would be drunk before they even realized what was happening. That is a great excuse for relapsing whenever someone craves a drink, but it is totally untrue. It is ridiculous pseudo-science.
People may rationalize their actions, or minimize the danger for a few minutes, or make up all kinds of stupid excuses for why it's okay to take that first drink, why it's okay to have just one (or two, or three...); they may sometimes even just refuse to think about the negative consequences of drinking because they really, really want that drink, but there is no blank spot where the alcoholic is unable to see that he is deliberately lifting a drink to his mouth, choosing to drink, and that he is voluntarily swallowing it. There is no blank spot where he doesn't have a choice, and can't control his hands or his mouth. But Bill Wilson insisted that there was, and that he just couldn't help but take a drink whenever he got some cravings. Bill was nuts.
Bill continued:
Once more: The alcoholic at certain times has no effective mental defense against the first drink. Except in a few rare cases, neither he nor any other human being can provide such a defense. His defense must come from a Higher Power.
No effective mental defense? You have to just hope that some Spirit or ghost or Higher Power will keep you from drinking? And this is the program whose members claim is the best alcoholism recovery program in the world?
Bill Wilson also wrote that A.A. members will all testify:
"I simply couldn't stop drinking, and no human being could seem to do the job for me. But when I became willing to clean house and then asked a Higher Power, God as I understood Him, to give me release, my obsession to drink vanished. It was lifted right out of me..."
Notice the really bizarre complaint:
We will seldom be interested in liquor. Now that is really a delusional cure for alcoholism. Without any thought or effort on our part, God just makes the problem disappear. Poof!
In his next book, Bill Wilson wrote:
We had approached A.A. expecting to be taught self-confidence. Then we had been told that so far as alcohol is concerned, self-confidence was no good whatever; in fact, it was a total liability. Our sponsors declared that we were the victims of a mental obsession so subtly powerful that no amount of human willpower could break it. There was, they said, no such thing as the personal conquest of this compulsion by the unaided will.
That is ridiculous and pathetic. Everyone who successfully quits drinking uses his or her own will power. Everyone who stays quit uses his or her own will power every day and every night. The Harvard Mental Health Letter, from The Harvard Medical School, stated quite plainly:
On their own The NIAAA's (National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism) 2001-2002 National Epidemiologic Survey on Alcohol and Related Conditions interviewed over 43,000 people. Using the criteria for alcohol dependence found in the DSM-IV, they found: "About 75 percent of persons who recover from alcohol dependence do so without seeking any kind of help, including specialty alcohol (rehab) programs and AA. Only 13 percent of people with alcohol dependence ever receive specialty alcohol treatment."
So much for the sayings that
And note that the Harvard Medical School said that the support
of a good spouse is more important than that of a 12-Step group.
But
A.A. says just the opposite:
![]() Other stories in the Big Book say:
I saw that it was my life that was unmanageable β not just my drinking.
I did not know that I had no power over alcohol, that I, alone and unaided, could not stop; that I was on a downgrade, tearing along at full speed with all my brakes gone, and that the end would be a total smash-up, death or insanity. Other A.A.-booster literature tells stories like:
I said to my sponsor, "I really can't do this." That is surrender to an attitude of helplessness. An A.A. true believer wrote in a newsgroup that alcoholics are pretty much mental midgets who freak out at the thought of quitting drinking:
I'd say that few alkies, especially while still drinking, can handle the concept of quitting, even if they've tried to do just that a hundred times. Stopping... or putting it on hold for today or right now... is something we can grasp. There is always tomorrow if I want it and so make that decision when I consider it again at that point. A Cocaine Anonymous book of stories tells us that:
Today I know that I am powerless over the outcome of everything and that my life is still unmanageable by me. That is more surrender to an attitude of helplessness. Other A.A.-booster literature tells us that,
All members who actively work the program readily admit that they are powerless over alcohol.
Why shouldn't I be able to handle this crisis? After all, I had willpower. Now that is a twisty game of logic, isn't it? And very bad logic too. Regardless of whether alcoholism is a "disease", alcoholism is mainly determined by whether you use your hand to lift an alcoholic beverage to your mouth and drink it. So of course you have control over it. Drinking beer is not like having a heart attack.
Notice how the alleged 'doctor' said,
"If alcoholism is a disease..."
Obviously, alcoholism is not a disease like cancer or cardiac
disease. Alcoholism is not a disease at all. It is habitual, compulsive
behavior. (And I'm sure that some astute readers will immediately notice that occasionally, you can prevent heart attacks β by changing your diet, quitting smoking, getting more exercise, and living a healthier life-style β so you aren't 100% powerless over heart attacks, either.) When alcoholics wake up sick and hung over the morning after, and ask, "What happened?", the answer is simple. They took a drink and rationalized that it would be okay. That first drink tasted so okay that they then had a second one, and that was okay too, and so was a third one, etc... After 4 or 5 drinks, they stopped counting... When they wake up the next morning, feeling sick, they find that they drank far more than they had originally intended. But that's just how compulsive drinking and getting drunk works. That isn't "powerlessness". People relapse because they think that they can just nibble a little and get away with it. They imagine that they can do just a few without getting hooked again. They are wrong. See The Lizard-Brain Addiction Monster for more on that. Now there is a genetic factor that changes how alcoholics feel, and how they react to alcohol, but those genes do not force people to drink to excess, and those genes do not make people powerless over alcohol. Those genes just make managing alcohol much more difficult. While the A.A. preachers are busy making you feel guilty about everything, they will tell you that you were extremely selfish because you chose the bottle over family, friends, career, or anything else. If that is true, then you had the power to choose, which means that you weren't powerless over alcohol at all, which means that the First Step is wrong. For that matter, the whole blame game is a bait-and-switch stunt. They will start off by telling you that it isn't your fault, alcoholism is not a moral stigma because it's a disease and you are powerless over it.
" I was a sick person. I was suffering from an actual disease that had a name and symptoms like diabetes or cancer or TB β and a disease was respectable, not a moral stigma!" But after you have joined Alcoholics Anonymous and become a committed member, then they will tell you that you are guilty and personally responsible for everything.
The First Step showed me that I was powerless over alcohol and anything else that threatened my sobriety or muddled my thinking. Alcohol was only a symptom of much deeper problems of dishonesty and denial. What is this double-talk? That is contradictory. In the first sentence, you are supposedly powerless over everything. In the second sentence you are guilty of being dishonest and in denial, which means that you are in control of your behavior, and not powerless. It's all just a mind game designed to get you to surrender to the cult.
![]() A.A. evangelists and talking heads like Jillian Sandell (U. of California at Berkeley) actually teach that personal control and personal accomplishment are myths.1 She says that the Abraham Lincoln "log cabin to the White House" story is just another "popular American myth" and that such myths "allow individuals to believe that certain goals can be realized through hard work, merit, or just being a nice person..." Ms. Sandell says that such beliefs are all wrong, and that change is only possible by "turning our lives over to god as we understand him/her", and by working the Twelve Steps, of course:
A central premise of Twelve step programs (and the first 'Step') is to acknowledge the futility of the illusion of individual control. This is a key difference from self-help books and therapy, both of which rest upon the belief in individual power to change situations. Indeed, it is worth just briefly elaborating here some of the premises upon which individual therapeutic practices are based since Twelve Step programs are so different. Self-help books and individual therapy both aim to give the individual a feeling of personal control. They tap into the popular American myth that if we just try hard enough we can be or do anything. This myth has taken on many forms, Cinderella's 'rags to riches' version is one, Abraham Lincoln's 'log cabin to White House' is another, and Marty McFly's 'if you put your mind to it you can achieve anything' (in Spielberg's Back to the Future) is another; but all have the same aim. They allow individuals to believe that certain goals can be realized though hard work, merit or just being a nice person, thereby ignoring the larger societal structures. Issues around class, race, sex, etc. become irrelevant and transcendable. Both self-help books and therapy place all the responsibility of change in the hands of individuals.
That is passive dependency as a lifestyle and a religion.
It's a cowardly retreat from life that tries to cover its
tracks by proclaiming that admitting powerlessness
and dependency is really wonderful "rigorous honesty."
Note that Jillian Sandell's lower-case "god" isn't
really "God" β it is whatever you make it, and
"for many in the program 'god' is simply 'the program' itself." So you "commit to turning your life over to" the cult. You surrender to the cult, which sounds a little bit like selling your soul to the Devil in trade for sobriety.
If I had to give a name to such a philosophy, I would call it
"Loser-ism".
It's the church where you proudly brag about what a helpless loser you are.
The Beatles' song I'm a Loser is the standard church music.
Competence, strength, intelligence, self-reliance, and self-confidence
are terrible vices and sins,
immoral mistakes to be avoided
at all costs,
while incompetence, stupidity, ignorance, irrationalty,
superstition, blind faith, dependency, weakness, powerlessness, and insanity
are virtues to be proudly "admitted" at church get-togethers.
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You really can handle cravings and feelings of ecstatic recall. You don't really need a sponsor to hold your hand every night for the rest of your life to keep you from drinking, smoking, or drugging, which is good, because you really aren't going to get such a free full-time baby-sitter, anyway. So you're still on your own. In fact, if you are really going to quit, then you really have to quit. That is, you really have to do the quitting yourself, and you have to stay quit, by yourself. Nobody else is going to do the quitting for you, not God, not Cinderella's Fairy Godmother, not Santa Claus, not the Tooth Fairy, and not your "support group." ![]()
![]() Footnotes:
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Jillian Sandell, Working the Program, Bad Subjects,
Issue #10, December 1993.
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Last updated 19 December 2014. |
Copyright Β© 2016, A. Orange

